Our sense of self-worth is formed in the cradle of our earliest bond, the one we have with our mother. When this bond is nurturing, loving, and secure, we naturally grow up feeling that we are enough, just as we are. But when the relationship is cold, critical, or inconsistent, we learn a painful lesson, that we must earn love or prove we deserve it.

‘We must earn love or prove that we deserve it.’

This inner belief “I’m not enough” can follow us for a lifetime. It can show up as perfectionism, overworking, people-pleasing, or an inability to accept praise or success. No matter how much we achieve, that empty feeling of unworthiness remains.

Example: Liam always excelled academically and professionally, but inside, he constantly felt like a fraud. His mother, though well-meaning, often criticized him for small mistakes, never praising his efforts. In adulthood, he found himself endlessly seeking validation through work, yet never feeling good enough.

By acknowledging the root of his self-worth struggles, Liam began a journey of re-parenting himself, offering the unconditional love he longed for as a child.

Healing this hidden wound doesn’t mean blaming our mothers , it means seeing how the past shaped us, and choosing to become the loving parent we needed. When we do this inner work, self-worth flows naturally. We realize we are, and always were, worthy of love, success, and happiness.

We always were worthy of love, success and happiness! 

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